Here are the facts:
- On the average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day
- 1 in 4 women in the United States are victims of Domestic Violence at some point in their lives.
- Each year, intimate partner violence (IPV) results in an estimated 1,200 deaths and 2 million injuries among women
Second, what is abuse? Abuse can be emotional, financial, sexual, or physical. From the domesticviolence.org website, some examples of abuse are:
It was difficult for me to get my head wrapped around the idea that I was being abused. While, I was not beaten regularly, I was put down, I was grabbed and shoved against the wall, I was hit and thrown off the bed, I was forced to have to sex where it was all about control. And then finally the last straw, being thrown to the floor and having my head slammed into the floor in front of our son. I knew then I had to put a stop to the abuse or else he would keep sweeping it under the rug and blaming me for the abuse. So, if you are being abused in any manner listed above, GET HELP!
And finally, more than three women are killed every day by their husband or boyfriend??? This is not acceptable! These are the individuals that say they love us and will take care of us. And 2 million injuries per year??? How many more go unreported? Come on people, wake up! This stuff is happening every day in our neighbors' houses down the road, to people we think have the perfect marriage, to rich people, poor people, blacks and whites. I believe our culture perceives that domestic violence only occurs with poor African-Americans or Hispanics, or maybe poor white women in the backwoods of southern Appalachia. But it doesn't!!! The reason I include the picture of myself on this site is to show that abuse can happen to average, middle class, blond hair, blue eyed, white women. Not poor women, not fat, ugly women. To anyone! Violence against women in our culture is more prolific than we'd like to believe. Domestic Violence is an epidemic. We'd like to think that with the strides women have made for more equality and equal pay in the workforce, more equality in marriage, that women have a stronger presence in our culture. Yet, domestic violence still occurs. Men still abuse women simply because they can. Our culture still objectifies women and promotes the stereotype that men must be strong, domineering, and in control. I obviously don't know the answer or can solve the problem here. My purpose is get victims to seek help and to make others more aware that domestic violence occurs where you'd least expect, and we as a society can not keep sweeping it under the rug either.