tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post9128789348566101622..comments2023-05-08T00:18:44.607-07:00Comments on Elf Lady's Chronicles: Where's My Happily Ever After?Elf Ladyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05091520898746849923noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-39166179199155225342012-02-13T02:40:34.364-08:002012-02-13T02:40:34.364-08:00Thanks, Lisa! And thanks for finding me through t...Thanks, Lisa! And thanks for finding me through the hop.<br /><br />Take care,<br />DElf Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05091520898746849923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-4739908537727432332012-02-12T19:04:26.770-08:002012-02-12T19:04:26.770-08:00Happy Sunday via the Planet Weidknecht weekend hop...Happy Sunday via the Planet Weidknecht weekend hop! Hey, don't give up...I found my true love after two failed marriages that both included violence. We've now been together almost 12 years, married almost 11, and we're still like newlyweds.Lisa Weidknechthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06564377503507171734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-36501657618114683742012-02-08T17:27:00.346-08:002012-02-08T17:27:00.346-08:00You are so right. I resolved after writing this b...You are so right. I resolved after writing this blog to stop dating for a while. I'm trying to find a great kickboxing class instead. :o)Elf Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05091520898746849923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-22376655700184882682012-02-07T17:06:47.615-08:002012-02-07T17:06:47.615-08:00Nice blog! Dating is def axhausting .. I can reme...Nice blog! Dating is def axhausting .. I can remember giving so much and getting minimal efforts in return, but then again I wear my heart on my sleeve , so it didnt take much for me to get hurt when I was in the dating scene. My advise, take it slow. The faster the relationship goes the more vulnerable one can be.glor110https://www.blogger.com/profile/18294705813132596590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-7885030147871811122012-02-07T16:19:26.775-08:002012-02-07T16:19:26.775-08:00Well, then you are very blessed! Hopefully you wil...Well, then you are very blessed! Hopefully you will never go through something where you will think "What's wrong with me?"<br /><br />However, for some of us that have come from painful childhoods and have lived through unhealthy and abusive relationships, this is something that can go through your head and requires healing to overcome. Take care, DElf Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05091520898746849923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-85870003579672772892012-02-07T16:18:35.091-08:002012-02-07T16:18:35.091-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Elf Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05091520898746849923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-64928737695538020602012-02-07T16:15:21.687-08:002012-02-07T16:15:21.687-08:00Thank you, Linda. I wasn't sure how my blog w...Thank you, Linda. I wasn't sure how my blog would turn out as I wrote this, but I worked through some issues as I wrote. I'm sure I will need to revisit this topic from time to time as well. Take care, DElf Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05091520898746849923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-71633640617295618232012-02-07T16:05:47.550-08:002012-02-07T16:05:47.550-08:00That's wonderful. I'm hoping I can acheive...That's wonderful. I'm hoping I can acheive that one day.Elf Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05091520898746849923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-88650940433950887142012-02-07T13:00:24.587-08:002012-02-07T13:00:24.587-08:00Having thought about this a little more, I honestl...Having thought about this a little more, I honestly don't think I've ever thought, in my entire life, "What is wrong with me?"<br /><br />I have plenty of shortcomings, but that particular thought has never occurred to me.AJayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11710698565237426100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-21024854977261680452012-02-07T08:46:42.622-08:002012-02-07T08:46:42.622-08:00"I now know that only I can be responsible fo..."I now know that only I can be responsible for making me happy."<br /><br />Very true, Ayak.<br /><br />I've been married to my first (and hopefully only) wife for 15 years. If for some reason, I were to ever find myself single again, even though I am happily married now, I would be ambivalent about being married again -- my happiness doesn't depend on it. I love my wife, but for me, "happily ever after" has nothing to do with being married.AJayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11710698565237426100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-69098046321433554242012-02-06T21:29:07.233-08:002012-02-06T21:29:07.233-08:00After two failed marriages where I was made to fee...After two failed marriages where I was made to feel unworthy (and yes I also grew up with a mother who seemed to make it her life's work to make me feel worthless) I accepted that Happy Ever After doesn't really exist if it depends on someone else.<br />I never intended to marry again, but I did, 13 years ago. This one seems to work because my attitude has changed. I now know that only I can be responsible for making me happy.Ayakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16903896106779269050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5197075284542059703.post-10371500924506416612012-02-06T05:55:27.401-08:002012-02-06T05:55:27.401-08:00This is an excellent blog; I so identify with it. ...This is an excellent blog; I so identify with it. Thank you for helping me to see that my "happily ever after" may be for me to learn to love myself. This is a blog that I will want to reread.linda mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08203742811516417039noreply@blogger.com